nomorepie

nomorepie wrote

Im sorry you have been getting such inappropriate responses after sharing your trauma. Sharing is brave and you deserve compassionate listeners.

I have not been in this situation myself, but one thing I observed in the general discourse is people's outsized reactions to SA and especially CSA, but even animal cruelty, which to me always feels more like, and I hate to use this expression, virtue signaling. Like "oh I'm not the person who would think something like that is ever okay", idek if I'm explaining this right but this irks me even from my "ideological fellows" such as they are

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nomorepie wrote

"In French-speaking cultures, particularly in developing countries, the meaning of the term "tontine" has broadened to encompass a wider range of semi-formal group savings and microcredit schemes. The crucial difference between these and tontines in the traditional sense is that benefits do not depend on the deaths of other members.

As a type of rotating savings and credit association (ROSCA), tontines are well established as a savings instrument in central Africa, and in this case function as savings clubs in which each member makes regular payments and is lent the kitty in turn. They are wound up after each cycle of loans. In West Africa, "tontines" – often consisting of mainly women – are an example of economic, social and cultural solidarity."

I copied this off wiki, I understood it to be a more informal "mutual aid scheme" but idk where I heard about them first

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nomorepie wrote

Reply to comment by nomorepie in Stir Fry by WRETCHEDSORCERESS

Update, the kind I bought was already marinated so I just seared it in a pan on sunflower oil and ate it with rice and corn. It was okay, but a real struggle meal since I was quite sick and just wanted to make something fast, then ate the remaining half block after sliced very thin and heated in oil as well

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