don't become a webdev because you'll see nvm and the trauma will come back all over again.

I was under the impression that it wasn't out yet, I didn't even know I could use it

I want to add that I don't mean to be a hater-- A Discord alternative is a LOT of work, especially adding E2EE, which is an important thing. They made a modular ecosystem that is working pretty well. There's a lot I like about it! But this comment was only to address the negatives haha

Hi! I missed this earlier.

Can you tell me what ports specifically these were on, and were you trying to connect to a Caddy server running locally (i.e. at localhost:1234) or somewhere else?

I think IRCv3 is the update to the standard, but it's been brewing for awhile.

The onboarding is confusing and alienating to me, and while I'm someone with a high tolerance for that, it makes it hard to recommend it to other folks.

Then there's the performance of the element client. It drains battery and uses a lot of CPU on every device I use it on.

And despite being "e2ee", I only use it for public channels, which make the hurdles of e2ee meaningless (even if channels I were on didn't all have bridges to discords and/or ircs).

I still don't have a mental model for how to do identity/key management with it. Every time I use it, I just make a new account. I understand why keys can't be tied to a username/password, but I would want to at least be able to maintain a consistent identity without having to think about it.

I am angry about it constantly, but to be fair, IRC is pretty awful. You need to selfhost a bouncer to get a halfway-usable experience. And Matrix is really really bad to use.

Discord should be a public utility! Servers should be servers!

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P.S.: Posting, too. Posting is very good. I mean this very much.

It is magical and lucky that human beings have the ability to transmit thought through sigils. Ink or light, I think it's good that you can transmit this idea to people who are thousands of miles away.

Being able to express ideas of a global-scale on a global-scale is relatively new.

Posting is a big part of the most optimistic future. Even pessimistic, sad, angry, "How Did We Fuck This Up SO BAD" posts are important. You gotta post.

The suffering is all engulfing and we individually are powerless to change the tide. We're small in the face of suffering. I won't try to deny that this is true!

But something (I think I heard from Ian Coldwater) that really resonated with me is something like this:

"You can't fight in every fight, but you have to be in a fight.

This is an optimistic statement, but it's also correct!

It gives me permission to focus on one thing, to catch myself before a rabbithole. It makes it pragmatic to have the "serenity to accept the things I cannot totally fix in the next 10 minutes".

Frankly, it helps me actually do things, which is good. Even if that's a $5 donation to UNRWA or whatever. You can do small things, and you can quantify them not against the goal of "Fix Every Problem", but against the goal of "Fix One Person's Problem". Thinking at the scale of person rather than humanity really helps.

And, if we're going to live in the timeline that ends up OK, we need to be optimistic, even if the pessimistic outcome is more likely.

If we end up in the "humanity turns rancid (fascist) and kills the globe" timeline... Well, at least you can make the death a bit more painless. That is good too.

That said, this is a lot of rationalizing and untangling a feeling.

The other half is exercise. I hate that the "eat healthy, exercise, and buy my nutritional supplement" people are mostly right, but exercise (specifically cardio) is really really important too. It's a direct lever on your brain. By exercising, you divert excess energy from the Anxiety Nodule and to all your other organs instead. I spent years going around therapists and it's criminal that not a single one of them told me to start jogging.

Sorry this is all over the place, but I feel so much about this.

tldr: You can't be in every fight, but you have to be in a fight. And you have to take care of yourself.

This is how I felt at the revelation!!

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Frankly I've been feeling a lot of the same thing. I had to scrap my post twice because I got really longwinded in my reply.

I think it's bad form not to ask first to someone venting-- but, would you appreciate an optimistic advice-y reply? Because I feel and have felt the same way. It occupies my thoughts because the horrors are all around us. But I've also found bits of hope that our world is not doomed.

If it means anything, I know how this feels. At least we're not lonely in feeling this way. :( 🫂

You picked up on my lamentations that I was in Car and not Train.

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I think I am reading an air of insincerity/humor/inarticulable qualities

but I would like to reaffirm that I also experience this and I think it's a common response to having fine-grained minute-by-minute details of the ongoing horrors

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"whataboutism" has a point because some things genuinely will never matter

as a gift, one could go to tumblr to say that it is a moral failing to spend a minute caring about this, when one could care about anything else

plus, forced masculinisation is pretty funny actually. they make some funny posts

Wish this weren't evidenced as a true fact every hour of every day, but,

for personal reasons i hope harris wins but for angry reasons i hope harris bombs

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