noordinaryspider

noordinaryspider wrote

Reply to Take some deep breaths for me! by BIG_GAY_UNDERSCORE

I actually appreciate your posting from the other side. I know I should vape, it just feels too much like admitting that I have to have meds for the rest of my life.

It was amazing when I quit smoking cigarettes myself (15ish years ago) so maybe you gave me the push I need to take the best next step.

Recreational Marijuana is legal in my area even though the laws are stupid and getting stupider by the moment.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

Reply to nsfw post!!! I used to think "well endowed" meant "venerated" or "respected" by twovests

Oh no!!!! I don't see how to avoid these kinds of misunderstandings entirely. When we were running Windows 98 my then-teen caught malware that made his machine completely unusable just from a misunderstanding like that.

I'm old enough to have grandkids and I still make the same kind of mistakes. Don't feel too bad about it and I'm glad you're writing the email.

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noordinaryspider wrote (edited )

Reply to What was it like when you had sex for the first time? by xifiesco

I don't know, because I was really drunk at the time.

Not much fun. Scary waking up because he was drunk too, I was a minor and he wasn't, and it was so not cool that our skins were different colours. :(

We literally never spoke to each other again. We were always running into each other at parties and dropping acid together. Once he pointed at me and said, "I boinked (pronoun)." randomly and I neither confirmed nor denied it.

ETA: I'm reading this: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/05/alcohol-and-consent-questions/ and wanted to clarify that I do not feel raped by the man I gave my virginity to. He was a perfectly decent human being and we might have been friends under other circumstances.

The alcohol made both of us temporarily forget the existence of racism and statutory rape laws. I was just flattered that a "big kid" thought I was pretty, if you want to know the truth. What could have happened to a twenty year old black man who got drunk and woke up in a bed with a naked white fourteen year old girl in the 1970s is not something I particularly want to talk about.

If he felt raped by me, I am so sorry. That wasn't even on my radar until a few months ago.

:(

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noordinaryspider wrote

Reply to comment by musou in Fireworks Are Trash by devtesla

In a perfect world we wouldn't have needed to play with toy bombs at all but it's been a rough year. I wish there had been a better place to do it from the dog's perspective. It sucks being a dog no matter how nice your people are.

I'm not beating myself up over it because we were one of many, many neighbours making our poor next-door-dog's life a living hell, but I am passing along what their person told me as calmly and objectively as they were able to.

There are also thunder blankets and other non-med things that help, but I'm not responsible enough to take care of a dog so I don't know all the details.

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noordinaryspider wrote

Reply to comment by musou in Fireworks Are Trash by devtesla

Since they're toy bombs anyway, we did a bunch of riot/revolution LARPing this year and had a lot of fun, but it wasn't fun for neighbourhood dogs. :(

I like the idea of a shooting range type place that had a reasonable or no fee where people could go to play with them.

A lot of dogs have to be on meds on the 4th so it's a good idea to let their people know if you have leftovers and want to play with them on the 5th if that's legal in your area. The dog's people need to know how long the meds are necessary.

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noordinaryspider OP wrote (edited )

Reply to comment by hollyhoppet in Fuck! Fuck! Fuck! We are targets for hate crimes and we need to cover up! by noordinaryspider

Apparently this is an attack/blowback against this article in Everyday Feminism:

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/06/imperfect-teeth/

that I just found out about. :(

I don't want already traumatized people getting hurt and wanted to give them a heads up. I was seriously going to mail the Everyday Feminism article to my ex-dentist when I accidentally mistook his hired goon's abusive behaviour for an innocent misunderstanding.

I'm not the sharpest tack in the box, nor do I claim to be. :(

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