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twovests OP wrote

Reply to comment by toasthaste in HRT wasn't right for me, at least right now. (CW, f-slur, drugs, terfs, blindphobia) by twovests

I really appreciate this c:

I feel some kind of... Internal friction? About going on a trans forum and saying "Hey all, I'm not taking HRT <3". But I do very much appreciate people being okay with that.

I love the "queering the cis-trans binary" thing. I never felt very correct about IDing as trans, but between the two boxes, it's T 100%.

I keep wavering between "tapering off HRT" and "Oh, I can have another E as a treat" to the point where even this post is out of date lol.

(also, thank u for commenting on the terf criticism and saying it was funny. i worry that my posts about terfs and transphobes might be too esoteric or hurtful to consider)

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toasthaste wrote

Reply to HRT wasn't right for me, at least right now. (CW, f-slur, drugs, terfs, blindphobia) by twovests

I laughed at the TLDR :P Doing the good work

I'm glad you tried a thing and are learning more about yourself. I feel the thing of, like-- my relationship to gender doesn't align super well with most of the currently accepted mainstream-within-this-bubble gender theory stuff. I sometimes like to describe myself as "queering the cis-trans binary."

The framing that radfems should be high fiving over Biological Males taking feminizing hormones, victory over maleness.... god I'd never thought of that. That's extremely funny.

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twovests wrote

Reply to final vent by ___

I can relate a lot to many of the sentiments you expressed in this post. If I'm understanding correctly, you've invested a lot of time and energy and emotion into a relationship with someone who did not reciprocate your feelings, and that relationship ended without closure. I'm also understanding that a lot of your estimation of your own self worth hinged on the things this person would say and do.

I see you, and I promise that you're not worthless, not unsalvagable, not repulsive. You are a person and you have inherent value. I appreciate seeing your posts! even if I don't know you any beyond that!

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devtesla wrote

Reply to final vent by ___

So I don't know if anything that happened to you counts legally as sexual assault, or if you would define it that way at all, but I recognize the feelings you're going through really clearly. In my own experience I know that even things on the right side of the line can mess you up! It would probably be worth it to look around the RAINN website and maybe give them a call.

Whenever I get in a panic about something, the most comforting for me is "what is the next best thing I can do". I sounds like you've done a lot of the next best things, you're staying with a friend, you're not doing too much, you're giving yourself time to recover. I think that's all you should ask of yourself right now.

I check jspt pretty often so reach out if something comes up. Thank you for posting and I hope it helped to get things out a bit.

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devtesla wrote

Reply to final vent by ___

Hi, I don't think we talked before but I read through this and I see that the world feels small and painful for you now. But the world is big and there's more in it than you can possibly know, and more room to be happy than you can see at this moment.

You can message me here if you want, and I've got some more to talk about, but I wanted to get a message out.

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flabberghaster wrote

Reply to suicide as a chore and hobby (cw: suicide and whatnot) by twovests

That is a common thing i think. It's pretty common for people to like, finish paying bills or renew their lease or things like that, stuff involving planning for the future, before...

Well all that to say my friend I have been there. It's good to have things you want to do before you go. I hope you decide to stick around. But if you don't I hope you manage to get all out of life that you want to.

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hollyhoppet wrote (edited )

Reply to how do i get into a psych ward by ___

i know it's a little late, but get yourself to the nearest hospital, tell them you're having a mental health crisis. they'll take it from there. if that's too hard and you're in the us, call the national crisis lifeline at 988. most other countries will probably have an equivalent line as well. or if you're trans, it may be better to call trans lifeline at +1-877-565-8860

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___ OP wrote

Reply to i dont want to by ___

its frustrating that i have just enough self control left that i wont ever do anything about it

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neku wrote

Reply to It really still makes me angry the way people have stopped caring about Covid. by flabberghaster

remember the beautiful moment we had where societally we were like "maybe we can establish a new normal of cleaner air for people indoors, reduced transmission of airborne transmission of pathogens, smarter policies around sick leave and working from home" and The Powers That Be were like "actually we thought about it and that would make the money sad :( get back in the fucking office"

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hollyhoppet wrote

Reply to i'm a girl by ___

fun transgender fact: if you wish you were a girl, chances are that you are, in fact, a girl

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neku wrote

Reply to i hung up my laundry yesterday but i had to close the window in the evening because mosquitos started coming in and now my laundry is still wet and i wish i had better venting so i guess this post is a vent vent post by ___

i've read that if you have a little bit of laundry you can hang it up in your bathroom with the extractor fan on and thatll help. my bathroom is like 3 square metres so that doesn't work for me but maybe you're a high roller. otherwise maybe you could get a screen for your window. or just put your clothes outside. my roommates dont put their clothes out to dry when its sunny and its like... but that's optimal drying time

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