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twovests OP wrote

Reply to comment by hollyhoppet in A response to "this is my trauma" that I dislike very much (CW: CSA, violence) by twovests

(awh i had a nice big response to you here but my browser updated and lost it)

I agree with the perspective of prevention. I think people (even ones who have done bad things) have utility, and preventing them from causing further harm (rehabilitation, etc.) is what we'd have in a more ideal society.

But, and I hope this isn't too personal... I have to admit some merit in wishing death, I think. (Sans suffering or sadism.) Before your dad was out of your life, did you ever wish he were dead?

Like, I cut my abusive mom (+family) off in 2019. She made threats that had me on edge for months, but she was also in bad health. I have to admit that the fact she could die any day really kept me optimistic.

She was lying about her bad health and is still alive, but years have passed and I feel safer now. But I still admit that I'd feel safer.

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hollyhoppet wrote (edited )

my dad? no, he's pathetic, powerless, and has had know way to know who or where i am for ten years. but there certainly are harmful individuals who i do wish were dead, if you know what i mean.

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