Something that turned me off from trans spaces ~10+ years ago was (what I felt to be) a strong messaging that, if you think you might be trans, you probably are. I read the "Null Hypothesis" and disagreed with it so much that I doubled down against the "pressure" I felt it implied.

I don't think asking the question makes you trans; and it would make for a bad place for the Questioning part of our acronym if we said it did. It would also be bad for cis allies (who would very reasonably ask themselves The Question, having many trans friends.)

I think another question worth asking is, would you want to transition even if nobody else in the world did? Or if trans community existed but it totally sucked? Etc.

Transitioning being a lot of work is another thing that kept me from it for so long. It's so much effort!