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flabberghaster wrote

I read it. The advice is not that bad in some places but it is kind of weird. Basically it's "People love talking about themselves, so ask them questions and listen to what they tell you. Even if you don't say much they'll often think you're a great conversationalist." That one is good. Others are like "People love the sound of their own names, so say their names a bunch".

I don't think it's that weird or manipulative, it just has kind of a clickbait title from before clickbait was a thing. Most of the advice doesn't seem that good (specifically saying peoples names freakishly often) but it's not like... pickup artist type stuff or anything.

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hollyhoppet wrote (edited )

i dunno i tried to read it once and the whole time i couldn't shake a weird vibe. definitely not as bad as PUA stuff but still kind of smelly. some of the advice is pretty ok though you're not wrong about that.

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flabberghaster wrote

I will caveat all of that with the fact that I read it in junior high, and don't really remember much. It felt weirdly manipulative in parts but some of it seemed innocuous.

I do not endorse it. But I think if you're going to read any book on the subject, you can do a lot worse, I guess is my stance.

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cute_spider OP wrote

You can't trick me into reading it by pretending it's mundane

I know your dark secrets

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