I kinda feel like there's a misunderstanding why astrology and occult have been seen as cool in the first place. People into those have been into them despite the polite society seeing them as silly. It's this disregard for respectability which makes them cool. Making it a wholesome queer aesthetic that demands to be respected misses the point and also any "wholesome" social space is pretty unbearable imo. Not everything needs to be a fandom.

I feel like queer spaces have really happily embraced up the gendered marketing.

Yeah I definitely agree. My expectations by now really are that it's a bunch of people with somewhat aligned interests inopposition to cishet norms and anything beyond that is a result of struggle.