I appreciate the advice, but no, this is a situation where I have to stand up for myself or I’m going to continue getting steam rolled

I went ahead and delivered the formal notice today, which kicks off the process. If they’re not out in two weeks, then I get the law involved and it kicks off a month long process where they have opportunity to appeal and jfc don’t let me start thinking about it or I’ll get upset.

It kills me because they’ve been close friends, but money and proximity is killing that, and this notice feels like a printed started, “We are no longer friends”

But, like, Cowloom is right. I’m a giver, and I want to give to more people and people I’m close to, and more deserving people, and I want to give less so I can keep some more for myself. And they are taking!! They are like a subscription service because I am paying for them to be in my life!!

And I’m just trying to stop feeling guilty for unsubscribing!

I appreciate you devtesla! But yeah cowloom much more accurately describes what I’m going though than I am (for instance I am conflating police with court and while they are deeply tied institutions, police involvement is not really on the table that’s just a high emotional reaction. Also no they would never abduct or hurt Alan under any circumstances, that’s an unfair thing to imply. The chocolate story, for instance, I feel like Alyce and I would have communicated better in previous years. But also given that conversation: yeah it’s time we de-orbit each other)