the most visible entities to attempt to reclaim [shithole country] are doing so on behalf those who are being marginalized, rather than stemming full-force from the group whose humanity is at stake

this I think is the crux of the problem. Much like you don't get to forcibly reclaim slurs for other people, if you're not from a place, calling it a shithole has a real different and not-ok vibe. I can see the similarities but I think this is a pretty different thing from people calling themselves "nasty women" etc

on the other hand “nevertheless, she persisted” is dope as hell imo