cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote on March 30, 2022 at 6:33 PM

Whoof, that sounds rough. To fall in love with someone and they don't have enough time for you? That's balugh.

toasthaste OP wrote on March 31, 2022 at 12:45 AM (edited on March 31, 2022 at 2:38 AM)

Yeah, it really sucks. And then of course part of my brain-- because we both WANT to date each other, and get a lot out of it-- is going haywire with "well maybe some of the circumstances will change one day." I mean they theoretically COULD, but. I worry I'm gonna holding a candle for her, going "who knows, maybe something'll change" forever if I let myself.

cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote on March 31, 2022 at 7:35 PM

Gosh I wish I had good advice on how to put down flags and candles. But oh boy if you want someone who can help you imagine scenarios where romance circumstances change, I've got a banger going where all three of them move to your own city and that's what makes the relationship fall apart! It's based on my own candles that I wont put down.

toasthaste OP wrote on April 1, 2022 at 9:46 PM (edited on April 1, 2022 at 9:47 PM)

I super don't want someone to help me imagine those scenarios, brain conjuring them up endlessly against my wishes already XD

I know Joy, I know what she's like in relationships, I've met her partners-- those relationships are NOT going anywhere. She is VERY VERY good at relationships! She is a devoted and committed partner and those are explicitly Maximum Commitment Life Partnerships. Sure, unexpected unlikely things can always happen but just. Thinking that way lies madness.

it fucking sucks