Since I am such a Braydehn, I'd like to complain about the common advice of "just being yourself, bro". The problem is that while I completely agree with the message, it appears to be basically useless in relaying the insight to those who need it. Since I am suspicious of help that actually doesn't help, I am suspicious of that advice giving as well. People have lots of reasons why they aren't comfortable being themselves and it's weird to me why the advice givers seem so satisfied with themselves..