this looks fun and i will play at my next opportunity

very jez take

thank you for the warning

I feel this is less about Aziz and more a meta thing about journalism. It's interesting tho, and a very jez take.

I was with her until the Drake bit but in all fairness this was written in 2014

i think this hits the nail on the head. the widespread, longstanding denial about the ubiquity of sexual assault is not necessarily always motivated by a desire to protect abusers at all costs-- that's just the practical end result of a more complex set of psychological impulses. a lot of it is that people tend to behave in ways that accord with what they wish were true, even with a mountain of evidence suggesting the contrary.

i only bring this up because it's relevant, but i have been the victim of multiple sexual assaults in my own life. it took me decades to even admit to myself that they happened, and then years of therapy to make my peace with it all. it's like the old saying about eating an elephant, you have to do it a bite at a time. it took decades of chewing to get to the point where i can talk about it matter-of-factly, even pseudonymously on an internet forum.

and during that process, the biggest and hardest bite to swallow, for me, was realizing that i live in a world where all the people who do these horrible soul-destroying things are normal human beings, with thoughts and feelings and insecurities. they all have inner lives just as rich and varied as my own. they are just like all the people i already know. hell, statistically speaking, they ARE the people i already know. they are not uniquely evil monsters, born to be a villain in a story. we just live in a world where people have the ability to hurt each other in permanently debilitating, ineffably cruel ways, and do so regularly.

and that's too big and too scary of a reality for a lot of folks to face, especially if they haven't experienced that kind of psychological violence firsthand. it's so much easier to mentally inhabit a world where our psyches are perfectly elastic, and however much they temporarily deform under the stress of a violent collision with another, they always pop right back into shape afterward. but that's not the world we actually live in. and i kind of wonder if society is collectively even willing to make the effort required to accept that.

i’ve been saying this for years. i’d probably actually watch more movies if they didn’t insist on dragging on for 1 hour longer than they should

me too thanks

congratulations!!

Dotto

i love the "oh dear"

(tryin to hide the fact she loves girls) this gay sounds interesting. i might sign up sometime.

needs more bitcoin

wow same!

hi cecilia, i too am gay

I,b gay

the future is here

honestly you just need to see the first two seconds

as someone who works in a cinema, movies should not involve the public in any way, they should play to empty rooms and ideally last the entirety of my shift

I don't know if I could survive that

but I really like my three hour Bollywood films :(

Kelly owns, check out the rest of her posts. I like this one.

i agree and also enjoyed the writing style of this post very much