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twovests OP wrote

Reply to comment by devtesla in Final HRT update. With the Trump admin, I'm not transitioning any more and don't intend to start again. (cw - trans genocide, bummer post) (probably should have been in venting) (bad post maybe) by twovests

While I disagree with the common lib narrative that pesky Gaza protest voters were the reason for Trump's victory, I do think it's fair to say (1) Dems are broadly entirely better on trans issues than Republicans, and (2) we broadly rejected Democrats despite that.

I might have owed more nuance to the idea. It's not just Dems who compromised on trans issues. I did too! I came around to the position that 'Vote Blue No Matter Who' thinking gives permission for the US to export death around the world. I thought at least liberalism was built around being able to identify and stop a genocide taking place within its realm. So, for my very small part, I compromised on trans rights in favor of another issue.

I think "massive surprise" is a fair framing to the past 11 months of Dem reactions. We're* only about 1% of the population and I'd assume there are more single-issue voters to gain by compromising on trans rights than there are to lose.

But on the totally other side, we have Gavin Newsom and a few other Democrats (especially during November 2024) pretty openly saying "Maybe we went too far with the whole 'trans rights' thing", especially vis-a-vis girls sports.

I'm putting the bar on the floor here, but if the 2026 midterms roll around and Democrats haven't further regressed on trans rights, I'll be pleasantly surprised. Gavin "trans girls shouldn't play sports but should be allowed to exist otherwise" Newsom 2028 might be better than a JD "the answer to your existential question is 'no sir' lol" Vance 2028.

*Aside: I don't know if it's appropriate for me to say "We". Since desisting I've been put into the 'ally' camp by some people in my community as I've operated in more spaces. It hurts but I can't say it's unfair, given I've also thrown around the verbiage of "something like cis male privilege" for myself to explain where I'm at. "Ally" might just be the best descriptor, and a lot of my identity is built around how I am interpreted. But I am also very transgender and I've had permanent physical changes that I don't intent to try and reverse.

Sorry that this comment makes another essay, I am packed to the brim with thoughts I guess.

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devtesla wrote

Haha it's good to talk it out just post.

There's a lot of bullshit democrats are saying for sure, but when it came to the July bill and the most recent shutdown the Republicans were going to make a "if you make it impossible to be trans in this country, we'll not shut down the government" deal and both times that didn't happen. There's clearly a red state blue state divide right now, but the appetite for compromise is much lower than I expected out of the dems. This isn't like Labor in the UK that's full on trans genocide now.

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twovests OP wrote

This is well said, I agree.

(I have nothing to add because I completely agree, but I wanted to acknowledge that with more than an upvote)

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I_got_killed_one_time wrote (edited )

ive never seen the word " desisting " in a trans context, can i ask what it means ? you seem to be using it separately from " detransing "

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twovests OP wrote

Someone told me that what I am doing is known as "desisting", i.e. titrating down from hormones, and not "detransitioning", which is usually associated with considerably more effort (being a whole another transition on its own). I assumed it was regular verbiage but I don't use other internet too much

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