He's bragging about being polite, there's some points where he admits to being extremely insincere and that bugs me a lot (I don't want to think that people are just being polite when they seem to be into what I'm saying!!), and there's no actual breakdown of these are the basics of being polite. It doesn't really have a structure, it's basically a rant.

why?

as someone who doesnt know shit about interacting with people because i've never had any friends or been in a professional environment i liked it but at the same time it could sound self-aggrandising

This is so incredibly aggravating to read lol

The second paragraph was me digressing into how I don't care terribly much how Woke or Good a blog is, for the reasons given, not referring to, describing or explaining the piece at hand, mea culpa. Deputy editorship of course carries more of a signal about what the publication considers itself to be.

ok yeah that really is pretty good IMO. i don't know that i stopped reading jez for the reason they identify in that article, but i definitely am more likely to read their articles having read that critique

This was written by a Jez staff writer, not a freelancer. She's been there for years.

I posted this despite the fact it was on Jezebel, but I haven't been following it for a while.

In the end, these blog sites are all surprisingly similar. I feel like the main distinctions are low-middle-(high)^1 brow and ideology and inside each basket, it's pretty similar. The writers keep circling and their work is published where ever it's published.

1. This segment maybe doesn't really exist. Online is ephemeral, read books, journals and shit instead.

They stopped paying writers based on page views, basically. They don't have pump out stuff just to get clicks anymore.

They've also talked a lot about what woman's media is even for, and the distance between the change in the conversation and what really needs to change in the world. This was really good. So yea that's what I mean by a jez take lol.

did something change over there? i haven't read it in a long time

I meant that as a compliment lol. Jez is good now.

this looks fun and i will play at my next opportunity

very jez take

thank you for the warning

I feel this is less about Aziz and more a meta thing about journalism. It's interesting tho, and a very jez take.

I was with her until the Drake bit but in all fairness this was written in 2014

i think this hits the nail on the head. the widespread, longstanding denial about the ubiquity of sexual assault is not necessarily always motivated by a desire to protect abusers at all costs-- that's just the practical end result of a more complex set of psychological impulses. a lot of it is that people tend to behave in ways that accord with what they wish were true, even with a mountain of evidence suggesting the contrary.

i only bring this up because it's relevant, but i have been the victim of multiple sexual assaults in my own life. it took me decades to even admit to myself that they happened, and then years of therapy to make my peace with it all. it's like the old saying about eating an elephant, you have to do it a bite at a time. it took decades of chewing to get to the point where i can talk about it matter-of-factly, even pseudonymously on an internet forum.

and during that process, the biggest and hardest bite to swallow, for me, was realizing that i live in a world where all the people who do these horrible soul-destroying things are normal human beings, with thoughts and feelings and insecurities. they all have inner lives just as rich and varied as my own. they are just like all the people i already know. hell, statistically speaking, they ARE the people i already know. they are not uniquely evil monsters, born to be a villain in a story. we just live in a world where people have the ability to hurt each other in permanently debilitating, ineffably cruel ways, and do so regularly.

and that's too big and too scary of a reality for a lot of folks to face, especially if they haven't experienced that kind of psychological violence firsthand. it's so much easier to mentally inhabit a world where our psyches are perfectly elastic, and however much they temporarily deform under the stress of a violent collision with another, they always pop right back into shape afterward. but that's not the world we actually live in. and i kind of wonder if society is collectively even willing to make the effort required to accept that.

i’ve been saying this for years. i’d probably actually watch more movies if they didn’t insist on dragging on for 1 hour longer than they should

me too thanks

congratulations!!

Dotto

i love the "oh dear"

(tryin to hide the fact she loves girls) this gay sounds interesting. i might sign up sometime.

needs more bitcoin

wow same!

hi cecilia, i too am gay